Milestones

By Harriet Barovick, Ellin Martens, Julie Rawe, Sora Song, Heather Won Tesoriero, Rebecca Winters

MARRIED. JENNIFER LOPEZ, 31, flesh-baring actress and singer also known as J. Lo; and choreographer CRIS JUDD, 32; in Los Angeles. The couple, who never officially announced their engagement, met on the set of Lopez's video Love Don't Cost a Thing. This is Lopez's second marriage.

DIED. ALICE TRILLIN, 63, wry, influential author and educational-TV producer; from heart failure relating to treatment for lung cancer; in New York City. Trillin's frequent writings on cancer included a 1981 article on the relationship between patients and their doctors that is still used in medical schools. Widely known as a muse for her husband, humorist and TIME contributor Calvin Trillin--in whose works she often appears as a voice of wisdom and reason--Alice Trillin also co-founded the innovative PBS show Behind the Scenes, featuring Penn and Teller, designed to teach preteens about creativity.

DIED. JENS NYGAARD, 69, defiantly unconventional founder and conductor of the Jupiter Symphony; of bone-marrow cancer; in New York City. Nygaard's sweeping knowledge of music gave rise to innovative, widely admired concert programs, often featuring works by Mozart (such as Symphony No. 41, "Jupiter," for which the orchestra was named). Nygaard raised money for the symphony himself; during one lean period, he paid each of his musicians with subway tokens and a book of sonnets.

DIED. ISAAC STERN, 81, classical violinist who played everything from Bartok to Bach in his own impassioned style; of heart failure; in New York City. He practiced obsessively. "I have begged him not to play so much," manager Sol Hurok told the New York Times in 1959. "I tell him, 'The less you play, the longer you will play.' It does no good." Stern was a generous teacher who mentored and encouraged cellist Yo-Yo Ma, violinist Itzhak Perlman and pianist Emanuel Ax (see Eulogy, below).

DIED. SALLY RESTON, 89, journalist and photographer who chronicled women's lives in Europe during World War II; in Washington. She was a major influence on and journalistic partner to her husband, columnist and Washington correspondent James Reston; together they produced the Vineyard Gazette on Martha's Vineyard from 1968 to 1988. They met in college on a double date, for which Sally had been matched with James' fraternity brother. "She was a Phi Beta Kappa," James Reston later recalled. "I was a C-minus student."

DIED. FRED DE CORDOVA, 90, producer of the Tonight Show Starring Johnny Carson; in Los Angeles. Before starting at the Tonight Show, De Cordova produced TV programs for George Burns and the Smothers Brothers, among others, and directed the 1951 chimp comedy Bedtime for Bonzo, co-starring Ronald Reagan. A frequent target of Carson's on-air jokes, De Cordova called his job "the best in television."